Saturday, May 13th

Repeat and Recharge

I’ve noticed myself struggling lately with the all-day exercises, the ones that require me to keep an eye out during the day for positive moments or kindness. Last Monday I resolved to set a trigger for myself of going through doors, which I would say was mildly successful. I did sometimes remember to think of my exercise when I went through a door. I also became aware of how many doors I go through in a day. Today I want to try to reinforce that trigger further, so I’m going to repeat the Most Moments Are Positive exercise.

To recharge, I decided to do a special one-on-one swim time with my oldest son, who’s currently learning to swim and a little uncertain of it. I love playing in the water and hardly ever get to do so now that I’m an adult, so I’m using the excuse of helping to familiarize him with it, and also spending some good time with him.

Happy Saturday!

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Saturday, May 6th

Repeat and Recharge

My repeat for today will be hardwiring, and I think I’ll focus on gratitude. Gratitude is such a core component of positive psychology, and gratitude exercises always feel good. One of the things I’ve noticed while doing these exercises is that, although skipping around helps keep things from becoming mundane, I also haven’t developed any strong ongoing practices. This is something that I’ve been considering whether and how I want to address it.

And I know what I want to do to recharge — garden! We’re in a nice span of spring weather, the strawberries are blooming, and I want to plant some flowers out front.

Happy Saturday!

Saturday, Apr 29th

Repeat And Recharge

My first inclination this week was to repeat the Loving-Kindness Meditation, because I felt that I’d done a rather ad hoc job the first time. Buoyed by yesterday’s realization of how much my “Should” controls my actions, I went back and looked over the week again… And decided that yes, I really do want to do the Loving-Kindness Meditation. Not because I didn’t give it full attention the first time, though; I want to do it because I really like how open it makes me feel.

To recharge, I gave myself some project time again today. This is not always easy around things like swimming lessons, errands, and the kids having friends over, but making the effort to squeeze in even a few minutes really does make my day better.

Happy Saturday!

Saturday, Apr 22nd

Repeat And Recharge

After some debate, I chose this week to repeat the Take A Vacation exercise. I still find it really challenging, and at this point that’s beginning to irk me. For today’s mini-vacation, I chose to put on a twenty-minute track of music that I like and dove into a project. The timed nature of the music helped me tell myself that I would not worry about anything else I had to do until it was over; I would just enjoy my project. It mostly worked. I think I could still use more practice.

It was only after I’d settled on my repeat exercise that I realized it was essentially the same as recharging. So to mix things up a little, I took advantage of another nice day and invited the kids out for a walk again. We ended up rambling around the neighborhood until we landed at the nearby park for a while. And again, I practiced not worrying about needing to be anywhere else.

Happy Saturday!

Saturday, Apr 15th

Repeat And Recharge

I decided to repeat Hardwiring this week, with an emphasis on feeling compassion and kindness — I can sometimes lose track of those when I’m around the children all day. In practice this seems to mean not only noticing moments of compassion and kindness, but also reminding myself to try to see the world through that lens.

To recharge, I read fiction. I almost never read fiction anymore; there’s just too much nonfiction I want to read, and too little reading time. But my friend recommended a book, and I gave myself the luxury of diving into it today.

Happy Saturday!

Saturday, Apr 8th

Repeat and Recharge

My repeat this week was the additional mindfulness meditation. (I still find it amusing that I apparently like meditation well enough that I want to do more of it.) I went to YouTube again for a guided meditation, and chose this ten-minute meditation.

To recharge I decided to try something a little different. I’m often so busy hurrying through tasks that I don’t pause to really experience them. I especially notice when, after the fact, I realize that I could have done something slowly with my kids, but chose instead to speed through it by myself. So today I told the kids we could bake cookies, and made a point of approaching the process purely as a bonding experience, just for fun.

And it was fun. Not entirely without stress — I should lighten up a bit about messes, for example. But overall I think there’s good room for exploration here.

Happy Saturday!

Saturday, Apr 1st

Repeat and Recharge

I so enjoyed the guided meditation I did on Monday that I’ve been wanting to do another, so today was the perfect excuse to do so. This time I poked around a little until I found this change meditation.

To recharge, I took an hour or so with a cup of tea and my laptop, and did some writing. Not writing I was “supposed” to do, for a real project – just writing on a fun story idea. It was invigorating.

Happy Saturday!

Saturday, Mar 25th

Repeat and Recharge

I go back and forth on how to decide which exercise to repeat. Is it the one that I connected with the most easily, or should I choose the one I struggled with the most, on the grounds that there’s clearly lots of room for practice? I’ve been a little under the weather yesterday and today, so I think I’ll go with the first idea this week, and do another gratitude meditation. Today, looking out at the daffodils and apricot blossoms, I’ll focus on the earth and in particular my garden.

To recharge today, I have a goal: to plant some snap peas. I resisted this sort of goal for my recharge for quite a while. I had the idea that recharging ought to be decadently lazy, like getting a massage or reading a novel. And those sorts of things can be fun, but I realized that by limiting myself to those I was failing to pay attention to who I really am. I love getting my hands in the dirt; I love watching things grow; I love the sense of satisfaction that comes with accomplishing something; and with all the bustle around living with three kids, I often have trouble getting out to the garden. Basically, I should be following a simpler rule: If I’m excited to do it, it counts as recharging.

Happy Saturday!